The 4th of July is about celebrating American freedom, so today I have decided to celebrate and love a part of myself that I’ve always kept hidden. For years I’ve struggled with my self-image and pushed aside who I truly am in order to please those around me. It has caused me a lot of stress and lost time worrying about what people think of me. But today I want my family, friends, and followers to know me a little deeper. And with that knowledge will hopefully come deeper love and more genuine relationships.
I am a bisexual woman and identify as part of the LGBTQA+ community. I have always quietly supported this group, but I no longer want to hide. So much of my childhood was spent doubting myself and crying over not being “normal”. I have always been attracted to both girls and boys but felt too embarrassed to open up. Those feelings of embarrassment grew into a sadness that affected every other part of my life. I didn’t love myself and instead spent most of my time wondering “why me?” So please understand that coming out is not to offend anyone, but to finally love who I am and hopefully encourage positive conversations. I believe that all people deserve to love themselves and are worthy of love and respect from those around them. I have always liked the idea of treating others the way you would like to be treated. My sexuality is not something that I can control, and rather than feeling the need to apologize or keep silent, I’m choosing to be proud. At the end of my life, I want to look back and feel that I was true to myself, and today is the first step.
With that said, I am now engaged and Ryan and I will be getting married in 2022. Ryan has known about my sexuality since the beginning of our relationship and has always supported me. He is one of the reasons I have the courage to make this announcement. The honesty and encouragement we give each other are why we’ve decided to spend our lives together and couldn’t be happier. Everyone deserves this type of love, no matter who you are.
Having this platform has given me the opportunity to reach people I would have never normally met. And I feel there isn’t any greater use of it than to promote kindness. For anyone who is still struggling with loving themselves, whether because of your sexuality or another aspect of yourself that you’ve had to repress, I encourage you to stand up for yourself. If nothing else, you can always reach out to me privately. I will love and accept you for who you truly are.
I am now starting to share my authentic self. Thanks for taking the time to learn more about me. From a proud, bisexual woman, I hope you have a safe and loving 4th of July, and every day after.